Relationship Security Test

How It Works

1. Answer 12 short questions about yourself.
2. Your responses are processed locally — nothing is stored or uploaded.
3. Get your relationship security result instantly.

What This Test Explores

This test explores emotional safety, trust and dependence, boundaries and self, and conflict repair to help you reflect on how secure closeness feels for you.

Who This Test Is For

This test is for people who want to understand how safe and secure they feel in close relationships — whether romantic, friendship, or family. It is useful for those who notice patterns like needing frequent reassurance, feeling anxious when a partner seems distant, or struggling to express needs directly. It is also for people who feel generally secure but want to understand their relational patterns more clearly.

What It Measures

The Relationship Security Test explores four dimensions: emotional safety (how settled and secure you feel in close relationships), trust and dependence (how comfortable you are relying on others and expressing needs), boundaries and self (how well you maintain your own identity and limits within relationships), and conflict repair (how confident you feel that disagreements can be worked through without damaging the relationship). These dimensions reflect core aspects of relational security.

How to Use Your Result

Your result reflects patterns in how you tend to experience closeness — not a fixed trait or a judgment about your relationships. Lower security scores in certain dimensions can point to areas where past experiences may have shaped your expectations. Noticing these patterns is the first step toward responding to them more intentionally rather than automatically.

Reflection Prompts

• Which dimension felt most recognizable in your current or recent relationships?
• Can you think of a moment when you felt genuinely secure in a relationship? What made it feel that way?
• Is there a need you have been hesitant to express directly? What gets in the way?

Practical Next Steps

• Notice triggers: when you feel anxious or unsettled in a relationship, pause and ask what specifically triggered it — the situation, a tone, a memory?
• Ask clearly: practice expressing one need directly this week, without hinting or testing to see if the other person notices.
• Reduce testing behaviors: if you find yourself creating situations to check whether someone cares, try naming the underlying fear instead of acting on it.

Possible Test Results